Steady Days Together
Example data Set up → Start fresh, before you record anything real.
How did they sleep?
Last bowel movement?
Out, slowly
They will take their cue from you.
Ask about the bathroom.
Quietly, from the front, at eye level. Don’t announce it — just ask.
6 min
Settled after “Put on Glenn Miller.”
What did you actually say? It will replace my wording on that card.
Call 911
- Someone has been hurt.
- You cannot keep them or yourself safe.
- They are unresponsive, or breathing strangely.
- Their face has drooped on one side, an arm has gone weak, or their speech has changed suddenly. Note the time and say “stroke” on the call.
If this is frightening you
Being hit, grabbed or threatened by someone you are caring for is common and almost never reported. It is a clinical fact about the illness, not a failing of yours, and saying it out loud changes what gets prescribed.
- Tell their doctor plainly — how often, and what happened.
- Ask about respite. You are allowed to need it.
- Alzheimer’s Association, day or night: 800-272-3900
Who to call
Call the doctor today
- This came on suddenly and isn’t like them.
- Fever, or pain when passing urine.
- No bowel movement in three days.
- A fall, or a new medicine this week.
- They have stopped drinking, or are newly unsteady on their feet.
- New trouble swallowing, or coughing on food and drink.
Sudden agitation that doesn’t fit their baseline is more often an infection, pain, or constipation than a change in the dementia. It is worth ruling out before anything is prescribed.
For the appointment
Example data — not a record of a real person Clear it in Set up before showing this page to anyone.
Behaviour record
Who they are
What has changed since then
Once episodes are logged this page fills in on its own: when they happen and whether that is changing, what was going on at the time, what settled them and what did not, and anything worth raising at the appointment.
Whether it is getting worse
When they happen
What was happening at the time
What has settled it
Tried without effect
Sleep and bowels
Medicines
What the carer has learned
Written down by the carer between episodes. Not measured by the app, and not ranked by it — the section above is what the record supports.
Worth asking about
Recorded at home by a family carer using a self-help app, not by a clinician. These are the episodes the carer had a free hand to log, so read the counts as a floor rather than a complete record. Not a medical device and not a diagnosis.
The record
What this keeps
This is health information about someone who may not be able to read this page themselves. It is worth knowing exactly where it goes.
What it records
- What you call them, their pronoun, their music, and what to put in their hands.
- How they slept and when they last had a bowel movement, on the days you answer.
- Each episode: when it started, how long it lasted, what you tried, and what settled it.
- Anything you save in your own words, and the medicines you enter.
- Occasions you marked as having frightened you.
Where it goes
By default, nowhere: it is stored by this browser, on this device, and the page asks the internet for nothing at all, not even a typeface. There is no account, no analytics and no advertising, and nothing is ever sold or passed to anyone else. If you switch on household sharing in Set up, the record is copied to a shared store so that everyone with the link can read and change it — that is the point of it, and it is the one thing here that leaves the device.
Getting rid of it
Set up → Start fresh erases the record on this device at once, and there is no copy elsewhere to ask about. Clearing this site’s data in your browser does the same. Because there is only one copy, it is also the only copy — use Back up in Set up if losing it would matter.
What it is not
Not a medical device. It does not diagnose or treat anything, and it is not a substitute for their doctor. The suggestions are ordinary non-medical care advice, and the report is a record of what you chose to write down — a floor, not a complete account.
Set up
Filled in with example answers so you can try the button straight away. Replace them with the real ones.
Who they are, what helps, what makes it worse, and what they take.
Share with the household
Colours
Text size
Dim it after 10pm
About them
These are example answers, so the button works before you have filled anything in. Replace them with the real ones.